The way we feel when we have a death close to us, is not the same for everyone. Some have a huge emotional connection to people far deeper, stronger and more rooted than you, and when you tear this root out, as death does, it hurts. The hurt can devastate people who appear strong on the outside. So reach out and they people lean on you, even if you think they are strong.
It is the inside, the torn roots, the injured heart, and the struggle that need your help. Be that anchor, the assuring voice, the great listener. You can make a difference in someone's life - the syrvivors.